Peer abuse

1.1 Bullying: What, Why, Where?

                1.2 Bullies

Bullies

How to Spot a Bully

1. Watch out for students that seem to have a problem with authority (police, teachers, principal etc.) and seem to do their assignments poorly.

2. - Male bullies are often aggressive and assertive, and they do not attempt to hide their aggression. They are typically of an athletic build

  - Female bullies are still overly aggressive and assertive, but they are often more focused on isolating other girls from their cliques 

3. If one of your friends starts to bully you, however tough it may be, do not stay friends with them.

4. Understand that many school social environments do not condemn bullying. 

5. As a final note on this topic, male bullies will make use of "gay" slurs and crude female scatological references in their verbal bullying, while girl bullies will generally attempt to make their victim think that they are not popular

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ACTIVITY

Do you have students with these characteristics and behaviours? How do you deal with that?

I have met with many cases of bullies in my classes. The insidents weren't too much intense, but they existed. I had a male student in the age of 11 who was a very good student, but he made three of my other students , boys as well, feel intimidated. I tried to solve this problem by talking to all 4 of my students, separately and as a team. We had meetings with the parents as well. The problem was vanished, but we sorted things down a little bit.

Activity 1.3 At risk students

How would you prevent students from becoming bully-targets? What’s the necessary skills that they need to develop to avoid becoming victims of bullying behaviour?

To prevent students from becoming bully-targets I would talk to them and discuss about how to stand for themselves. I would propose them to find 1-2 friends and try to elevate their self-esteem.

 The necessary skills that they need to develop to avoid becoming victims of bullying behaviour are self-esteem, courage to speak and stand for their selves, be eloquent and use arguments while speaking, talk to trustful people like their parents and teachers, be creative and know their rights.

1.4 Bystanders: Hurtful and Helpful

 

Adults can prepare children to become helpful bystanders by explaining the ways they can intervene and by encouraging them to make a difference in such situations. A “What If” activity could help you raise such discussions in your classroom and make students think of specific ways to change the bullying situation. Useful learning resources for teachers and students are also videos like this, where YouTube influencers underline the fact that no one can stop bullying on their own. They strengthen people to take action when they are witnesses.

Activity 

To intervene or not to intervene?

IN YOUR OPINION, WHAT’S THE MOTIVATIONS THAT LEAD BYSTANDERS OF BULLYING SITUATIONS TO DIFFERENT RESPONSES AND HOW ARE THESE BEHAVIOURS REINFORCED? WHY DO SOME STUDENTS CHOOSE TO HELP OR NOT TO HELP THE VICTIM WHEN WITNESSING BULLYING?

It depends on their character and temperament, their psychological profile and their life in general, with the good and bad parts. 

I think that in most cases, it's a question of fear. The children fear the revenge of the abuser and therefore stand on his side.

Depending on their reaction, bystanders of bullying situations can promote, prevent or just accept silently the phenomenon. There are many reasons for this, having to do with one’s personality, education, upbringing or even his parents’ reactions to similar cases. The lack of self esteem or the need to gain approval and be a member of a team, may lead students to encourage bullies. On the other hand, students with confidence and empathy will try to stop bullying.

1.5 Impact of bullying

Activity:

Conflict vs. Bullying

Sometimes people think that bullying and conflict are the same thing, but they are not. What is the difference between conflict and bullying? What are the characteristics of peer conflict and how do they differ from those of bullying? How does the impact of a conflict differ from the impact of bullying?

The conflict is between equals because there are differences between them and it creates a contrast, they argue, it comes to hands, but then it all ends at some point. The conflict may remain unsolved because none of the parties changes their mind or perhaps it happens that one of the two parties realizes they are wrong. the conflict could also be something positive, from which a friendship is born.

Bullying, on the other hand, is completely negative, since the bully is targeting a person with the purpose of verbally hurting him, sometimes even physically; the bully feels pleasure inflicting suffering on another person, enjoying isolating him, putting him in the corner and often the consequences can be extreme.